Since when did “Tumaba ka” become society’s new “Hello”? I have heard this one too many times—said to my face and said to others—and honestly, I am sick of it. There’s the straightforward “Ang taba mo”; the pasimpleng “Parang tumaba ka?”; the super insulting “Buntis ka ba?” when you’re NOT pregnant; the pa funny (but just as mean) “Diet diet pag may time”… The list goes on.
What is it with people nowadays body shaming others, especially those they haven’t seen in a while, instead of simply asking how they’ve been? Maybe this happened because of social media, where we portray ourselves to be #goals all the time. Whatever the cause, people now have forgotten that health is more important than size and that meaningful conversations are so much helpful than unsolicited criticism. We have forgotten to be human.
I’ve been a victim—no, a survivor—of body shaming. And after years of feeling annoyed, frustrated, and trying every diet available in the market to conform to people’s opinions of me, I said to myself, “F**k this. Why am I so hurt and affected by what others think?” Especially when the people who tell me I’m fat don’t know anything about what I’m going through and don’t even know the first thing about health.
I’ve come to realize that people who shame others are the same people who don’t know what it’s like to love and accept who they are. So the easiest way to get rid of their own insecurities and unhappiness? They spread hate. If you have ever been hurt by these monsters of humanity, here are a few reminders:
1. Accept who you are. Love the body you live in by taking care of it.
2. Take care of it by living a healthy, balanced lifestyle. This doesn’t mean you should stop living and quit burgers and fries altogether. It just means you do everything in moderation. After all, too much of anything isn’t good for you.
3. Always be active. Even a 20-minute walk is better than doing nothing. Personally, I work out at least three times a week to make sure by body’s strong—strong enough to go through my crazy schedule, strong enough so I don’t get sick. The #bodygoals just follow. I also change up my workout routines so that my body never gets used to just one thing.
4. Never compare yourself to others. Everyone is different. There are things that may work for others and not for you, and vice versa. That’s what makes us INDIVIDUALS. There is literally no one else like you in the world, and that’s pretty amazing.
5. Support each other. As a human being, you should support other humans. We are all we have and we should all be in this together. Put your insecurities aside and be there for each another. Stop shaming, stop hating!
So. If ever someone ever comes up to you and says Those Words again, just smile and walk away. Trust me, you are so much happier than they are—and that already makes you the better person.
Hasta la vista, haters. :p
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